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Dementia and Anger: Mom is mad about being placed in a home

We just placed Mom in the home... she is very angry... thinks we are trying to kill her. We are new to dementia,
Status: Open    Jan 15, 2015 - 12:35 PM


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Feb 08, 2015 - 01:48 PM

I am sure she is adjusting now.
But put yourself in her place.
Taken from her home from the things that she is comfortable with, surroundigns she is comfortable with and put in another location.
Toddlers don't like going to preschool, sendign a kid to over night camp can be a problem College students often are upset when they first go away to college. No one likes change. And it makes things worse when you don't feel like yourself.
All you can do is reassure her that she is safe and that you love her.
Bring her little gifts when you visit. Ask her to show you around. Ask her to take you to lunch if possible.

Feb 08, 2015 - 04:33 PM

I feel your pain. We are in a similar situation with my mom who was placed in a memory care facility 9 months ago and is still angry. Some visits are ok, others are awful. Get support for yourself because the stress of this can sure take its toll. I recommend calling the facility before you visit to gauge how she is doing that day. My Mom enjoys it when we take her for outings outside the facility. It has also helped to furnish her room with many of her furnishings from her former home. When she starts going down the angry road, change the topic, you may be amazed how easily distracted she is. Get yourself a copy of The 36-hour day -- a great resource for families. Best of luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
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