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How much privacy will my dad have in assisted living?

He is a very quiet introverted man whose greatest joys are his books and his cat. I believe he will join in a book club and meals in a dining room (he hates to cook) but otherwise he prefers his own company. He hates loud gatherings and chaotic situations. He has Parkinson's and can no longer live alone safely. We tried home care but since he can't cook well it was too expensive to have someone coming in 3 times a day for cooking & bathing. He is not willing to have someone with him 24/7.
Status: Open    Jan 04, 2015 - 10:49 PM

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Mar 16, 2016 - 08:53 AM

The ability to maintain your privacy, while having access to programs and services as needed and/or wanted, is one of the biggest benefits of an assisted living community. However, your question is a good one to ask when touring a community. The best communities will offer a wide range of programs designed to help residents integrate into the community. Participating in the programs and events help create a sense of community. Residents can pick or choose the programs that interest them and there should be no pressure on residents to participate. You can live as privately as you like and participate in the social activities on your terms.

It sounds like assisted living could be a great fit for your father. Good luck!

Mar 16, 2016 - 09:05 AM

It depends on your dad, the community, and the caregivers. Generally, residents can have a substantial amount of time alone in their room(s) usually going to the dining room for meals. He may also sign up for activities, outings, and events if he chooses. While he may not enjoy loudness, there are many alternatives that are relaxing in nature: book club, exercising, puzzles, etc.

The most intrusive part of living in a community is that there will be many different people coming and going from his unit. These will include cleaning services, laundry services maintenance services, caregivers, volunteers, staff, medical staff, etc. While they generally knock, they do so as they are entering the unit. Clearly the more care he receives, the less privacy he will have.

The good news is that most facilities allow cats which can be extremely helpful for seniors. Most facilities will say they'll look after the cat (i.e. feeding, scooping, etc.) but in my experience it simply doesn't happen. Ensure that your dad, or someone you know, provides cat food, supplies, and so on.


Feb 08, 2015 - 03:32 PM

It depends on the facility chosen. My uncle had a private room with a private bathroom and kitchenette. Someone would check on him if he didn't show up in the dining room and he had help with bathing. Otherwise he had as much privacy as he wanted.
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