Jan 18, 2015 - 03:54 PM
In psychology they have found that three or four nice answers can change a person’s anger into at least calm. Each time they meet she could try to honestly compliment something about the other person. “Good morning, Mabel, that color really brings out the color of your eyes.” Then go sit on the opposite side of the room. After a week of this and if “Mable” starts saying “good morning” back she could say “I think we got off on the wrong foot, do you thing we could try again?” You never know they might have a lot in common.
I once had a man who, for some unknown reason didn’t like me from the first introduction. Since we had to work together and I didn’t know why he didn’t like me, I could not let this situation stay as it was. So I picked out something that I really did like about him, he had a great laugh. And I told other co-worker about how I loved to hear “Joe” laugh. It got back to him as all office gossip does and suddenly “Joe” was a lot friendlier towards me. In fact we often ate lunch with a group of coworkers and told jokes all lunch long.
Jan 18, 2015 - 04:29 PM
If your mom likes the community, perhaps you need to tell her that if she doesn't tamp it down a bit, she will need to find a new place to live. Share your fears with her. Maybe she will share her feelings and you can get to the bottom of it.
Wishing you luck.
Feb 01, 2015 - 07:57 PM
You may even get a chance to talk to the other lady. Make sure you don't say something she can use against your mother, but maybe you can tell her your Mom would like to have a friend and would she be someone that would be available to help your mom by giving her something to smile about every day too.
When you visit your Mom, don't only bring your Mom some cookies or magazines, stop by the ladies room and with a big smile give her a little something too. If she starts liking YOU, she will want to like your mother.
Best of luck.