Dec 21, 2014 - 09:57 AM
I would suggest narrowing your preferred options for independent living. When you have a top few, begin with baby steps with both your parents. The idea of picking up and moving may be too overwhelming for yout mom to consider. Would she be willing, instead, to be involved in touring some communities you have researched so she can make an informed decision? Perhaps she may be willing to have the counselor visit them at home. Or, maybe instead of a tour or home visit, she may be up for a drive to see where the independent living is located and what it looks like from the outside. Be creative with your options and discuss your ideas with the independent living counselor and your family.
Ultimately, I recommend simply slowing the process down. Your mother should feel that she is in control of her own decision. Explore options that bring additional assistance to your parents' home as an alternative to moving. Don't give up speaking with your mother. While she may never come around to the idea of senior living, you may find that a discussion at the right time may soften her interest in moving in the future.