Jan 06, 2015 - 01:29 PM
What a blessing that she can still get around with a cane and has her cognitive abilities. It does seem she has made the decision to stay in her home in her town even though she has been offered other options from family. I do agree as long as she is safe in her environment and mentally competent to make her own decision then the decision is hers. However, she cannot make the decision for you or anyone else to move in with her. If the ones she would invite to live with her are unable to do so then other options could be outlined. Other options for someone to live in or stay for a set number of hours per day could be offered by a friend, neighbor, or home care company who services her area. This type of arrangement would require payment for this type of care, oversight, or companionship.
In addition the area agency on aging or county senior services division could assist with home meal delivery, adult day services, or other potential services for home bound seniors.
You may also want to consider a life alert button for her in the event of a fall or emergency and she would be able to communicate her need for help.
Lastly I would recommend someone else (outside the immediate family) having a conversation with her about potential alternative living arrangements and identifying the reality of what these facilities have to offer. Many folks in her generation can only visualize an "old folks home" setting and are not familiar with the community and social environment offered now in an Assisted Living Center. With a mindset of "old folks home" she would not be able to see herself there as she is very independent for her age.
This person could be someone she respects and maybe has authority in her eyes such as a physician, clergy, elder care attorney, financial advisor, or a close friend who has experience a similar situation with their family.