Dec 05, 2014 - 08:35 AM
You can only control your own actions and or response to others. If your brothers are not willing to help with caregiving of your parents or offer some better options for decisions that need to be made then I don't believe anything will change. Therefore you could choose not to listen or partake in a conversation with their criticism, if it lacks alternative ideas or suggestions. When you need help you could solicit assistance from other extended family, friends or neighbors of your parents, or volunteers from a local church or senior center. Also you could contact your local agency or aging for other resources.
It is important that your parents have a durable power of attorney naming someone of their choice to make decisions for them in the event they are not able to do so for themselves. That person should be responsible for decision making and their welfare.
If they are still capable of making their own decisions then perhaps they could solicit help from your brothers if they desire their help in certain matters.