Mar 15, 2015 - 06:03 PM
It is a tough spot but eventually they will have to face it.
Depending on how old they are (and how old you are) they may think that they have plenty of time to make a decision....but we never know when we will no longer be able to take care of our affairs - due to death, accident, or illness.
Since you have already tried to address the issues you might be better served it you have someone else they trust address the subject.
There are other options than just putting him into a specialized group home...and a special needs trust inside a Revocable Living Will.... can help them spell out their wishes.