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How do we get my Mom to trust someone other than my sister?

Mom only trusts my older sister to help her with finances, doctor appointments and anything personal. Problem is that my sister does not have time, she works full time and has two small children. How can we get mom to start trusting someone else to help?
Status: Open    Sep 25, 2014 - 09:28 PM

Relationships, Caregiving

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Sep 16, 2015 - 12:06 PM

Find a reputable local agency. Make sure agency is licensed and caregivers are background checked and trained.
Have them do an introduction and have the caregiver be responsible for the easy stuff like laundry. Have the same caregiver come (depending on finances) at least once a week; and start to build a relationship with mom.
Eventually Mom will allow the caregiver to do more and more, Like transportation. Sister should keep the responsibility of finances and gradually hand off the rest.


Sep 26, 2014 - 02:30 AM

My brother and I started transitioning to him taking more of a part in Mom's care by having him accompany us to her doctor's appointments and having casual conversations about finances. Very gradually I started to pull back and my brother started to do more. The trick seems to be making the transition slowly so that your mom is comfortable with the change. It also helped that I reassured Mom that I was still keeping an eye on my brother.
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