Jan 31, 2016 - 09:02 PM
I am in a similar situation. Sister-in-law means well, but doesn't realize Mom has always been intimidated by her. She always seems to "know" the right treatment, can "sense" Mom's vitamin deficiencies, sends Mom home with bags of vitamins and vegetables which will never be eaten. Older brother is super busy and unavailable most of the time, so his wife is his proxy, whether by choice or by default. Younger brother and I have learned, as mentioned above, that limiting the amount of information shared usually takes care of the problem. It is an added stress at an already stressful time, but we are working through it.