Oct 14, 2014 - 10:13 AM
Many adult children are in denial about changes related to aging parents. Even more common is aging parents denial for their own need of help. I can only assume by your question that your parents are receptive to some assistance and you are attempting to get your out of state siblings on board.
My recommendation would be to obtain written documentation or recommendations from your parents physician(s) regarding why they need assistance, the type of assistance they need, and for how long. In addition collect information of providers in your parents' area that provide the type of assistance they need and the cost. This approach is giving your siblings factual, definitive data from an objective professional authority as to what is best for your parents.
Another option is to solicit one of your parent's close friends whom the family knows and trusts, who has first hand information and examples of their need. This person could also objectively express the need to your siblings.