APFM Staff Answers
Apr 21, 2015 - 07:38 AM
Losing someone is often a devastating event. Due to your mother’s memory loss she is unable to remember that she has lost her husband. When someone “reminds her” or tells her daily that her husband has passed away, it is (to her) as if she is hearing it for the first time. This is just a repeated tragic event for her. With dementia patients it is often good to just redirect them to another subject or to let them know that he is “not here right now”. Having a family member with dementia forget that their spouse is gone is more troublesome for the family than anything. They simply are at the stage where reminding them is more trauma than good.